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August 1, 1953 – December 23, 2019
elevated lkPvI Funeral Mass
Saturday, December 28, 2019 at 11:00 a.m.
elevated lkPvI Saviour of the World Chinese Catholic Church
30 Bristol Rd W, Mississauga, ON L5R 3K3
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Miss him so much… looks handsome in that picture.
He is alive in my heart.
What can I say about Arnold except in retrospect, the huge contrast I noticed between the eldest sibling of our pre-teen years and the adult brother. As kids we youngest four felt that he was all for his friends and we didn’t factor much in his plans. We fought, even hand to hand and had to gang up against him to have an even chance.. or hit and run hide behind Dona as he wouldn’t dare raise his hand against a girl! There was much rivalry. I thought he was pampered a bit too much by our single parent as he got whatever he wanted ..while we had to be satisfied with hand me downs. Suffice it to say, I didn’t feel much fondness for him in the younger years. Love our brother? Yes. Like him? Not much.
Then he grew up and married Hilda and left for the UK.. When he first reached out to me from there it was awkward at first as he hadn’t much participated in our sibling conversations before. I thought it might be that he was home sick. However; in time I started noticing a persistence and genuine concern and consideration for us at 117’s. Esp the time when he sent quite a bit of money to renovate and modernise our ancient washrooms. And many a time cash inside Christmas and birthday cards for the kids. Then Jenny and I noticed particularly the concern and readiness to help without being asked, to fund Rodney’s treatment when he himself was being treated for cancer and they were obviously constrained by his own treatment. His was the immediate, biggest and most consistent help at the time. They didn’t even let us wait for the funds to be collected. Jenny and I were overwhelmed by the generosity and concern.
It goes without saying that Arnold had a good life and Hilda was the focal reason behind it. She and his kids did a great job for the past several years caring for him which couldn’t have been easy. We owe this huge change of being able to show his concern more, solely to Hilda. She kept him grounded and calmed him when in his video conversations he got worked up about something.
Funnily what we’re going to miss most about him are his long, long, frequent calls! Love my brother? Yes. Like him? Yes!